DANG! Being quiet is like so hard. Especially when you REALLY want to talk. By talk, of course I mean gossip. I’m about to go on a treacherous journey, and please hold me accountable.
I’m going to start slow. One day at a time.
My journey? Listen. Don’t speak. Just listen.
I tested it today. I was being observed for my evaluation by my boss. I didn’t say anything after the lesson. I just listened. I would wait and when I felt called to say something I did. And I learned so much about her. I understood why she acts the way she does and how to approach her better. (She’s amazing, no complaints whatsoever.) It was incredible. I’m tired of wasting my words or my mouth getting me into trouble. So like our mama’s told us. “If you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say anything at all”, I’m taking a step further.
If you don’t have something IMPORTANT to say, don’t say anything at all.
For those that are skeptical, the following verses helped shape my viewpoint.
“Post a guard at my mouth, God, set a watch at the door of my lips!” Psalm 141:3 ESV
“a time to tear and a time to mend, a time to be silent and a time to speak,” Ecclesiastes 3:7
“Keep your tongue from evil and your lips from speaking deceit.” Psalm 34:13
“Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.” Colossians 4:6
“Lead with your ears, follow up with your tongue, and let anger straggle in the rear.” James 1:19
“Whoever keeps his mouth and his tongue keeps himself out of trouble.” Proverbs 21:23
All this evidence against gossip! Bad mouthing! Venting! Whatever you want to call it, God says NO. Gossip is so prevalent in churches, and it’s heart breaking! I know I slip and that’s okay, but I can’t keep going back and doing it again tomorrow. So, because I cannot stop myself. I give up! I’m planting the seed of self-control in my spirit and I’m refusing to speak unless God tells me to.
I need to be walking, talking, and forgiving like Jesus did.
Would Jesus have gossiped?